“What Rep. Weiner Could Have Learned From My Mom (and What You Can Too)”
I would love to tell you that I don’t get it but I do – yet another powerful figure that has demonstrated his lack of integrity. It is a story for the ages. Boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy pursues girl (except in this case boy is married), boy sends private pictures over a public medium and gets caught engaging in illicit online relationships.
I would also like to tell you that this is a problem confined to only the highest levels of organizations or government.
But you know better.
Rep. Anthony Weiner’s behavior demonstrates an all-too-common belief system in today’s business environment. Namely that one can act in anyway one chooses, then lie when caught and hope no one will notice (or that the behavior will be given a pass).
How is it that one can be a public figure, married and send private photos PUBLICLY to several women over the course of several years on something like TWITTER for goodness sake and not believe they would get exposed? Does the name Tiger Woods ring a bell?
My mom always said, “If you don’t want folks to know what you’re doing then you’re probably doing the wrong thing”. Am I perfect in abiding by that? No. I’m human and we all make mistakes. But I would hope that our errors might be confined to page 50 (and of little real interest to anyone) and not to page 1.
When you mess up, ‘fess up.
The good news is that when Rep. Weiner was finally forced to acknowledge the truth, he was fairly open (or at least we believe so at the moment).
The bottom-line is that we live in a day and age in which everything we say and do is only a “tweet” away (not just things we presume or desire to be private) but to think that we can trust strangers with our most intimate (and not so intimate) thoughts and desires without giving forebearance to future ramifications is unrealistic at best and delusional at worst. Everything is up for public consumption.
So here’s a simple idea (adapted from my mom): If you wouldn’t want your mom to know what you’re doing or saying (or in this case tweeting), then it’s probably the wrong thing to do or say or tweet (and it doesn’t matter who you are).