Archive for the ‘Personal development’ Category

Why “why” is the killer of taking action

Tuesday, August 12th, 2014
  As summer began I and a friend put ourselves on a summer challenge to getjustdoit our bodies healthy. I intentionally chose getting healthy over losing weight (yes, I needed that too) because when I'm eating healthy and doing good things for my body, my weight naturally moves into a healthier zone as well. As we began the journey, my friend sent me this text: "I just want to UNDERSTAND why I eat the way that I do." and my coaching brain immediately thought "Uh-oh". You see,  the challenge with being a coach is that you    Read More

when touchy-feely isn’t your nature

Tuesday, January 31st, 2012
The other day a young woman was referred to me who has been in the job market for well over a year.  She has a great resume and consistently gets two interviews per month, BUT NO OFFERS. She's a financial analyst by training and quite brilliant by anyone's standards and yet, she cannot get hired.  After speaking with her for about an hour, here's what I learned:
  • She's strong INTJ on the Myers-Briggs Scale
  • She considers herself to be a no-nonsense, shoot from the hip, call-em-as-I-see-em person, in other words "If    Read More

the court room vs. your office (how the casey anthony saga can help you grow)

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

"The Court Room vs. Your Office (How the Casey Anthony Saga can Help You Grow)"

Anger. Outrage. Injustice. These feelings rang so loudly in my head when I heard the Casey Anthony verdict that I could focus on little else.  NO justice for little Calee. As the day wore on however, I found myself reflecting on the events of the past several months.  Of the cases presented by the defense and the prosecutors, of the perspective of the jurors, of the impetus of my own anger and outrage and (as always) what I could learn    Read More

letting your work “speak for itself” can be a faulty long-term strategy

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
In my last message, I introduced you to the basics of emotional intelligence and why they are important competencies to master for your career success.  As critical to mastering emotional intelligence is recognizing that career success goes beyond simply showing up for work, delivering an excellent product and then heading home at the end of the day.  I cannot tell you how many clients I have coached that could not understand why their work didn't speak for itself or why they had to play "office politics" (in their vernacular).  If this is your mindset,    Read More

on connecting with your boss

Tuesday, April 5th, 2011
I recently came across a blog post that gave several tips to the reader for "how to get along better with your boss".  The "tips" included things like: - Laugh at your boss' jokes - Share an embarrasing story and - Ask them questions you know they want to answer Seriously? Having been in the trenches for a while, I had visions of some poor young millenial in the boss' office with the "tip cloud" in his head - laugh at joke. check. share embarassing story. check. Have boss think you're odd and inauthentic. Check    Read More

break the “trying” rut

Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011
Commitment What do Oprah Winfrey, Donald Trump,Steve Jobs, Ghandhi, Madonna,  Mark Zuckerburg, Tony Robbins and Valerie Pendergrass all have in common?  Hint: I am not a multi-millionaire----yet.... Many things may come to mind........
  • Most are well known.
  • Most are mega millionaires.
  • Most are considered leaders in their field.
  • You may even say some of them were lucky.
I submit to you that while many of the above statements may apply to most of the names above, we know their names because of two things: Read More

when life gives you lemons…

Tuesday, March 15th, 2011
Lemonface Whoa!  I am still in shock and shaking my head from a conversation I had this morning.  It happened to be with an old client that I hadn't spoken with in a while (at least a year) and I quickly found out why: My ex-client has been living in a parallel universe......... as bad-luck-schleprock. I know it sounds as if I'm making light of someone else's misery but my ex-client (I'll call her "Mary", not of course her real name) would be the first to    Read More

silence is not always golden

Tuesday, February 8th, 2011

Speak-Up One of the core challenges many people often have in the business environment involves the simple act of knowing when to use their voice - of knowing when to  speak up in order to make a difference in their space.  

How often have you been in a meeting discussing a business situation and a thought crossed your mind which sat on your tongue?  In the span of mere seconds, you surveyed the participants, heard your idea spoken, evaluated the perception (Is    Read More

moving towards “count-on-ability”

Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

PromisespromisesThe reality is that as human beings, we want to be trustworthy which means we also want to be accountable (or rather "count-onable").  Have you ever met someone who aspired not to be?  The challenge is that somewhere along the line, we learned that it was "ok" to break our word.  That the world is, in fact, so accepting of it that we no longer feel bad when it occurs.  We have confused the "promise" of getting something done with the    Read More

holding a higher standard for personal accountability

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010

Accountability1 I was reading a blogpost recently that spoke to the issue of accountability, specifically on the leaders responsibility to hold people accountable for what they said they would do.

I was disappointed....

While there is truth in the old adage that "people will do what they know gets checked", I'm not sure if that equates to people being accountable.  More often than not it becomes more about fear-based motivation rather than accountability...

While that    Read More