are you pursuing your happyness?

My husband and I watched The Pursuit of Happyness last evening starring Will Smith (based on the book of the same name written by Chris Gardner). If you aren’t familiar with the story, it is the inspiring (and true) rags to riches, work hard and don’t give up on your dream story of Chris Gardner who, despite tremendous obstacles, became a stockbroker and later founded his own company.  For the full story, visit I made quite a few mental notes but the one I wanted to share in this posting involves a scene between Chris (played by Smith) and his son Chris Jr. one afternoon while they were shooting hoops.  Chris Jr. appears to be about 7 years old and was a huge basketball fan. The implied underpinnings of the scene would suggest that he secretly desired to play pro basketball one day (not unlike many kids at that age). I’m taking liberties here but the gist of the scene was that during the game Chris begins to tell his son, seemingly out of the blue, that Chris Jr. shouldn’t count on being a basketball player because no one in their family had ever played basketball very well – in other words, basketball wasn’t in the gene pool and because of that Chris Jr’s chances of being a really good ball player were significantly diminished. I must admit that what started as a light-hearted and heartwarming scene between father and son quickly became rather depressing.  All the more so because this diatribe comes from nowhere except dad’s head.  Chris then, after seeing his sons face and realizing that he had completely crushed his sons vision, began to give his son a speech about how he should never let anyone stomp on his dream – not even his own dad.  At the end of the day it was a neat scene given that dad was in his own struggle to fulfill a dream and had been a bit "stomped down" himself.  It prompted me to think about the human nature of man and how easily we stomp out each others light all the time.  How many times in our life (especially as children) have we told someone our dream only to have them say, "You want to do what?" or "Yeah, right!" or "You aren’t ____(fill in the blank – smart, pretty, gifted etc) enough to do that."  How many times have we done the same thing to others?  Seeing this scene prompted me to ask this question of you – What dreams have you had that you’ve allowed others to stomp on and destroy? Whether you are 6 or 60, I’m here to tell you that you can always pursue your dreams, always pursue your "happyness".  I invite you to find a quiet place, put pen to paper and spend some time putting your dreams to paper.  What can you do today to begin the journey to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be? 

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